Relationship Builders (Part 1) – How To Build A Strong Marriage

kong hee, sun ho

Relationship Builders (Part 1) – How To Build A Strong Marriage

05 March 2016 Saturday Service – Kong Hee & Sun Ho

4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. 1 Cor 13:4-8

31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. 32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. Eph 4:31-32 
Love is like a big magnifying glass.

Being single is not only finding the right person but being the right person for the other.

Communication is key to marriage

‘Communication’ = GR. Koinonia means ‘Fellowship’

Words have creative power to build up. Words have destructive power to tear down. Words go deep into a person’s soul

The words of a talebearer are like tasty trifles,
And they go down into the inmost body.
Prov 26:22

Words can break a person

“How long will you torment my soul,
And break me in pieces with words?
Job 19:2

Words determines the quality of a marriage

Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.
Prov 18:21

Communicate by words, gestures & spirit

Communication breakdown..

1. ONE partner doesn’t talk anymore

2. We don’t talk DIRECTLY anymore

3. Emotional & Physical ABUSE

Total Honesty

To be soul-mates, there must be total honesty. Without total honesty, our marriage dies.

1. Identify hurts & failures

3 And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? 5 Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. Matt 7:3-5

2. Confess and repent

4 Against You, You only, have I sinned,
And done this evil in Your sight—
That You may be found just when You speak,
And blameless when You judge.
Psa 51:4

Total honesty means no secrets, no shifting of blame!

3. Forgive

13 bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. Col 3:13
Love and forgiveness are synonymous. Have an attitude of ‘I will forgive’.