The Commitment of Love

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The Commitment of Love

13 February 2016 Valentines Service – Kong Hee

Love is the most wonderful feeling in the world.
A famous quote goes, “it’s better to have fallen in love and lost everything, than to have never loved at all.”

The highest expression of love is commitment. Not pleasure, sex, words, gifts etc

1 John 4:7-8 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. 

God is love. He is the personification of what love is.

Jeremiah 31:3 The Lord has appeared of old to me, saying:
“Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love;
Therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you

John 3:16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.

Romans 5:8 But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Hebrews 13:5 Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.

Matthew  28:20 teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”

2 Tim 2:13 If we are faithless,
He remains faithful;
He cannot deny Himself.

Isaiah 49:15 Can a woman forget her nursing child,
And not have compassion on the son of her womb?
Surely they may forget, Yet I will not forget you.

God experienced rejection. But yet He could love.

1 Samuel 8:7 And the Lord said to Samuel, “Heed the voice of the people in all that they say to you; for they have not rejected you, but they have rejected Me, that I should not reign over them

Isaiah 53:3 And the Lord said to Samuel, “Heed the voice of the people in all that they say to you; for they have not rejected you, but they have rejected Me, that I should not reign over them

1 Corinthians 13:13  And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love

“Love” in Greek is “Agape.” It means a self giving devotion, a sacrificial love.

Love is more than a feeling. Love is really a choice. In the marriage vow, it says “I will…” Love is making a choice.

Genesis 24:67 Then Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent; and he took Rebekah and she became his wife, and he loved her. So Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.

Notice they made a decision to commit to the marriage. Commitment is the foundation of marriage.

#1 Love commits to the marriage
Marriage was meant to last till death do us part.

Matthew 19:5-6 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

“Joined” in Greek is “proskollao.” It means to glue togetherWithout commitment for the long term, trust can’t flourish.

Trust and commitment are interdependent. The more we trust, the more we commit. The first miracle Jesus did was at a wedding! It was a mess but Jesus turned everything around!

John 2:5 His mother said to the servants, “Whatever He says to you, do it.” 

Just follow what Jesus says.

Rev 2:5 Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent and do the first works, or else I will come to you quickly and remove your lampstand from its place—unless you repent

A. Remember: what you used to have together

B. Repent: decide to turn things around, have a change of mind and direction.

C. Redo : do the things you did at first

#2 Love is commitment to the family.
How? There are 5 “Hs”.


Exodus 20:12 Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you.

Philippians 2:3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.

#3 Love is commitment to God.
Singleness is not a problem!

1 Corinthians 7:7 For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that.

1 Corinthians 7:32 But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord.

It’s okay to be single, just don’t be alone.