14 Sep 2013 SOT Graduation Service – Dr A.R Bernard


David used war as a reason to do things. You cannot build in a time of war, only peace.
David’s intentions were good but he can’t build the temple. But his son Solomon would do it. In Biblical, Solomon means peaceable; perfect; one who recompenses’.

God asked Solomon what he wanted, and Solomon asked for great wisdom so that he can go in and out with his people. In and out, means to interact with people, when and how.

He already had positional power, he was king. But what he was asking for was what Jesus had.
Solomon wanted personal power.

There are two kinds of leadership you can have
Leadership by authority, you have the credentials and power, everyone must listen to you.
Or leadership based on relationship. That’s what Jesus had.

You don’t transform people on authority, you change them through relationships.

Personal leadership transforms peoples’ lives by modelling a good example of what they should become, and is governed by the sensitivities of the needs of people. People will only change through relationships. They will change by virtue of the relationships you have built with them, because they will allow you to speak into their lives.

It also will keep you humble. When you understand what they go through, you feel a closeness to them,  the distance gets smaller. In relationships, distance is not measures by miles, but affection. You can be very close and be miles apart, because there’s no personal relationships.

As you lead, the most important thing you will learn is what the people will teach you, as you lead them.

Ministry is people. You need wisdom to lead people. It will be in levels and stages. How do you manage these stages while maintaining your leadership? It’s all what you learn from observing people, because ministry is people. You can’t be in the ministry if you don’t love people.

So that’s why Solomon asked for wisdom so that he knew how to deal with people.

Authority or positional power produces compliance. Relationship produces commitment.

The level that people occupy in your life depends on their level of maturity. The closer you are to them, the more transparent you are to them. You can only get hurt by those closest to you. That is why you need to choose your closest people wisely.

What to look out for when choosing leaders?
A. Character
Motivation of their heart; Committed to the vision?

B. Chemistry
Same DNA and vision? Able to ‘click’?

C. Competence
Are they skilled enough?

They can have everything above but do they have resilience? Resilience is the ability to recover. From severe crisis. Bad situations. When the storm comes, when the trial comes, are they resilient enough to bounce back up? This is most critical in choosing leaders. Many people are knocked down by just one big blow of persecution or crisis.

13 For no temptation (no trial regarded as enticing to sin), [no matter how it comes or where it leads] has overtaken you and laid hold on you that is not common to man [that is, no temptation or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not adjusted and adapted and belonging to human experience, and such as man can bear]. But God is faithful [to His Word and to His compassionate nature], and He [can be trusted] not to let you be tempted and tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance and power to endure, but with the temptation He will [always] also provide the way out (the means of escape to a landing place), that you may be capable and strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently. 1 Cor 10:13 AMP

Nothing you experience is beyond human’s resistance! God sets the boundaries of our circumstances and situations, He will never give your something that you cannot handle it.

You really don’t know what capacity you can bear, until you go through something and bear it up to the capacity.

Whatever you’re going through today, you can handle it! God is faithful! His word,  as well as his compassionate nature. He experienced it all, and God forbid that we have to experience it all.

God can be trusted. With what? Not to be tempted and tried beyond your ability and strength and power to endure. You have more power than you realise!

But with temptations, He will always also provide a way out, to a landing place. That you may become strong to bear it up….  Patiently.

“…that you may be capable and strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently”

Patience protects you from deception. Persistence outlasts persecution. No matter how long it takes. Trusting God with the outcome.

4 Qualities of Resilient People:
#1 They Have A Passion For What They Believe In
Not only their own but for others. Not only for a cause, but for a calling.

#2 They Are Forgiving People
They forgive others, they forgive themselves. Refuse to let past failures define them. Forgiveness is a way of life. They understand forgiveness keeps them free, free from prisons. Prisons of life aren’t made of steel, but they are prisons of the mind.

#3 They Live In A State Of Hope
They’re optimistic, hopeful! Never giving up!

#4 They Are A People Of Faith
Strong belief that they can achieve the future that they are hoping for.

#5 They Have An Uncanny Ability To Encourage Themselves
They understand that they cannot wait for someone else to come and encourage them because they might not show up.

Leaders of Christ must go through seasons of supernatural dependence of God himself.

#6 They Walk In Humility
They understand it’s for something greater than themselves.

If you’re going to make it in life, you better be able to take a blow and bounce back up. Be resilient!